March 9, 2024

The only way to know our essence is to shift from conceptualizing ourselves as our outer descriptors to experiencing our heart’s profound spiritual characteristics. So, let’s do an exercise that will take us to our depths.

March 8, 2024

Many say, “I hear about Essence, but what is it really?” In answering this question, it’s important to first know what essence is NOT. Our essence is not our appearance, social standing, education, gender, financial status, family background, personal history, ethnicity, accent, sexuality, accomplishments, mistakes, or personality.

March 7, 2024

On Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, the attainment of self-actualization is near the very top.

Jungian psychotherapist Paula Reeves is the author of Women's Intuition: Unlocking the Wisdom of Your Body (1999). I was honored to have studied with Paula for years. There is a profound personal story of hers that she told to a small group of us. I refer to my notes from her talk.

March 6, 2024

Once we solve, to a reasonable extent, the problems of how to love, we turn to the next level of challenges: building our self-esteem, sense of purpose, and identity. It is difficult to attend to the problems of reaching healthy self-respect unless we are reasonably stable physiologically, out of danger, and have viable ways to give and receive love.

March 5, 2024

After we solve the problems of meeting our physiological and security needs, we progress to the next level of problems associated with loving, being loved, and belonging.

March 4, 2024

The second level of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs is safety and security. After solving the foundational problems of physiological sustenance, the next level is solving the problems of security. We may be well-fed, healthy, sheltered, and clothed, but if these are lost, we cannot exist. Therefore, human beings put immense emphasis on solving the problems preventing our being secure.

March 3, 2024

The first level of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs is the physiological sustenance of our body. This includes solving the problems of obtaining food, clothing, shelter, and medical care. If we cannot function physically, we cannot live.

March 2, 2024

Every level of Abraham Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs (1954) has inherent problems. At the base of the pyramid, there are our body's physiological needs and those of others. Without solving the problems associated with physical well-being, we cannot progress to the other levels of the pyramid. On the next level are the problems of having adequate food, clothing, and shelter. Next, we must solve safety and security problems before we can progress up the hierarchy of needs.

March 1, 2024

An increasingly popular phrase these days is, “No problem.” For many of us, those words do not always fit the circumstances. For example, the table server will likely say, “No problem” when we request something, like bringing a glass of water. We are glad that bringing the water isn’t a difficulty. Yet, do we need the assurance that doing his job is not a problem for him?

February 29, 2024

“It was so beautiful that it took my breath." Have you uttered those words when you saw something so stunningly beautiful that you gasped with amazement? When we come upon something shockingly beautiful, our amygdala, the small part of our brain that senses sudden differences in our environment, sends the following warning to the brain: "What you see is out of the ordinary; get ready to run or fight." So, we gasp for more oxygen to fly away or fight through. But quickly, we perceive that the difference is an unexpected pleasure, not a threat, so we soon relax into the beauty before us.

February 28, 2024

The Hollywood film "Waiting to Exhale" (1995) is based on a novel by Terry McMillan. It's about upwardly mobile African American women and their relationships with married men. Each character has its own way of holding their breath until they land a relationship with a man who commits to them.

February 27, 2024

We have all heard the expression, "I am not holding my breath while waiting for it to happen." This means that, regardless of promises or predictions, we don't think it will happen, at least in the foreseeable future. In other words, if I hold my breath waiting for it to happen, I'd likely die of oxygen deprivation first.

February 26, 2024

We have all heard the expression, "I am not holding my breath while waiting for it to happen." This means that, regardless of promises or predictions, we don't think it will happen, at least in the foreseeable future. In other words, if I hold my breath waiting for it to happen, I'd likely die of oxygen deprivation first.

February 25, 2024

A well-known expression is: "I am holding my breath." This means we're hoping the outcome is what we want, but we are unsure. We have such high expectations that our wish will come true that we suspend our breath in anticipation of the outcome.

February 24, 2024

I remember a game we used to play when we were kids. Whether in a swimming pool or the ocean, someone would say, "I can hold my breath longer than you!" Then everyone would take a deep breath, hold their nose, and duck beneath the surface. The longer we stayed under, our lungs felt like they were on fire. You remember the game; the loser was the first to resurface and gasp for breath. The ones who held their breath the longest won the contest.

February 23, 2024

There are several categories of people that I tend to other. I am not proud of it, but I tend to other people whose yards are full of parked, rusty cars that no longer run. . Usually, such yards also have other clutter. I other people who look down on my religious beliefs. I tend to other those who do not seem to live the beliefs they espouse. I other people who are aggressive.

February 22, 2024

Do you recall a time when you were othered? It could have been in your school years, on the job, or in your neighborhood, but you knew you were excluded, shunned, or ignored. When othered, we feel defective, different, or inferior. Many of us can recall the painful times when we were othered, and the pain comes right back as if it were happening now.

February 21, 2024

Most of my Christian behaviors and attitudes, such as being polite, honest, kind, and trying to love my neighbors, were accepted values of the culture into which I was born. Therefore, many of these attitudes and behaviors were not intentionally “Christlike” but were enculturated. However, I saw these attitudes differently after beginning my journey into wholeness and consciousness.