The Power of Healing

March 26, 2024

Broken relationships are some of the most challenging things to heal. So many feelings are involved, especially when hurtful things have been said or done. Some broken relationships are the result of people drifting apart. One of the parties may lose interest in the other, or they may find another direction for their life. Some people are disillusioned in their relationships with friends, family members, or loved ones.

If one of the parties is abandoned or rejected by the other, they usually feel tremendous pain. The one who abandons the other may also feel great pain, guilt, and shame. Or they may feel so angry and bitter toward the person they are leaving that they have no guilt.

A woman in her late sixties had never had closure with a boyfriend who rejected her in high school. She was miserable when he left her for another girl in the class. She kept the feeling of rejection and shame for decades. One day, she decided to locate this fellow and chat. Deep down, she wanted closure with him, but she was unconscious of it. She found Jim on social media and chatted with him in Messenger. They arranged a call. Both parties, who were now grandparents, had lived extraordinary lives. 

Jim was receptive to Connie’s hurt over their breakup decades ago. He said to Connie that he, too, had kept her in his heart ever since their breakup. Jim felt guilty and mean for doing what he did. He’d considered calling Connie to apologize but feared she would hang up.

The desire for closure drove these two people to have a long-postponed conversation. Closure is one of the most profound aspects of grief resolution. Both Jim and Connie had gone to their souls. In their egos, they would still be too prickly to have the healing conversation they had. In their souls, something bigger than both of them occurred. The soul is interested in love and harmony, not holding grudges or saving face. The soul is interested in healing relationships.

Some broken relationships can never have the closure that was Jim’s and Connie’s. They never talked again. Some are too afraid to have the closure that their souls desire. However, everyone can have closure on an individual basis.

Inquiry: Why would you feel better if you made contact after all these years?

Dear God,

Oh, so many regrets… Oh, there have been so many immature decisions in our past. Oh, so many hurts held for so many years. Have Mercy, Dear God, on all of us who seek healing.

Amen.

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