Memory Part 7
February 17, 2025
Memory Part 7
There is a saying that I love: “Let’s make new memories.” These words remind me that every present moment will become a memory, and we can be conscious of making good ones. This is not to say that all memories must be good ones. We still need to remember some of them regardless of their unpleasantness. But making new memories conveys the notion that the memories made will somehow enhance the relationship.
Making cherished memories is the most substantial building block of relationships because they are the records we keep about those we care most about. Yes, inner records in the form of memories remind us of what we value about another person. We can recall their humor, loyalty, skills, capacities, lovable ways, and many more.
Our relationships carry memories of when others manifested their soul qualities. These memories were “cataloged.” We draw from our most profound memories of their soul qualities when we remember, speak, or be with our loved ones and close friends. In their totality, these memories contain the “information” from which we relate to the person in the way we do. Their soul qualities stood out to us in some way.
Maybe we needed their particular soul qualities; maybe they filled and still fill a massive hole in our being. Perhaps their soul qualities modeled some soul qualities that we, too, want to develop. It is possible that their soul qualities were and are essential to our being. In any case, we needed, resonated with, or admired those soul qualities, and we never forgot the person and how they were manifested. These are precious memories on which the relationship is based.
So when someone asks to “make new memories” with us, they ask to deepen the relationship, extend its parameters, and increase its meaning and love. When we ask them about it, we request the same. It is one of the most profound compliments that a soul can receive.
Spiritual practice: Is there someone with whom you would like to increase the depth and breadth of the relationship? If so, you may consider making new memories with them.
Self-inquiry: What are the qualities of your soul that those closest to you would say are the most important to them about you?
Dear God,
Thank you for the memories that fill my heart and send me deeper into the depths of my soul.
